totaltly agree with you! In fact I don't see the purpose of an hedge for retail trading because nothing prevent you of a reversal when you close the losing position. Hedging is usefull to cover some very big international business, my point here was ...
Sorry because I didn't read all the posts but a cheapest idea could be to place your hedge on a demo account and you place only the winning position on your real account...so you pay only one spread.